Beneath the Crust
You will be 'nlightened. You will be 'ncouraged. You will be 'ntriqued. (N 2D 3rd power)
Here are excerpts from books I've written.
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Dumb Ass Woman (Adult book)
This book address issues women face daily and how we deal with these issues.
The reader is given an opportunity to interact in the book and on the website.
With permission from reader, comments placed on the website may appear in future books.
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If I don't get myself together, he will leave me!!!
I was talking to a woman who was devastated because she’d just found out that her husband was cheating on her.
She said after finding out her husband was cheating, she joined a gym to tone up, changed her eating habit to slim down and started skin treatments to improve the quality of her skin.
I asked her what brought on this sudden interest in altering her appearance.
She said, “I just told you, my husband is cheating on me with another woman.”
I asked her what was her husband doing about his appearance.
She said nothing.
“He’s not doing anything to pull in that big beer belly?”
“No.”
“What about those toxic feet?”
“Nothing.”
“Surely he’s going to the gym and dieting with you.”
“No, he isn’t.”
“What is he doing differently now from what he was doing before you found out about the affair?
“Nothing.”
“Let me get this straight, your husband is cheating on you. He broke your marriage vows and according to you, he even brought a woman into your home. Yet, he’s not doing anything differently than he was before?”
“No.”
I said to her, “wait a minute, your husband is cheating on you and you are the one making changes.”
“Yeah.”
“You are one Dumb Ass Woman.”
“I know, but a woman has to do all she can to keep her man.”
Discussion topics
Is it a woman's fault when her man cheats?
Why/why not?
Why do you think some women feel responsible when their men cheat?
Do you think the woman making all those changes is going to make her man faithful to her?
Why/why not?
Go to http://www.beneaththecrust.net/ and blog about it.
You may be asked for permission to have your response published in a future book.
In search of Sanity Relationship Issues
Does a battered woman get what she deserves?
A woman told me that her husband beat her for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I told her that he should beat her for morning and evening snacks also. She said she could not believe I said that. Then she started talking about she was a victim of the Battered women Syndrome. I told her she was a victim of the Damn Fool Syndrome. A battered woman chooses to be battered. How are you going to stay with a man you know beats you and act surprised when he beats you? Or, even more puzzling is why you stay with a man who beats you. I am sick and tired of taxpayers’ dollars being wasted on women who allow themselves to be battered. Some of these women go from safe house to their house to safe house to their house and so on. Some women have utilized every safe house in their immediate area and have utilized many safe house in surrounding areas, only to go right back to the abuser. I worked at a safe house. The first rule is secrecy. During orientation, the women are told do not tell anyone where this place is. That rule was posted throughout the building and was reiterated in our daily group meeting. One of the biggest problems we had at the safe house was women’s men showing up The incident that sticks out most in my mind is the time I walked out of my office and saw a husband standing in the hallway armed as if he was going to invade some poor country. His wife had called him and told him the location of the safe house. He had come to take her out of there. We were being held captive by a crazed, armed, husband and the director kept talking about protocol. We had to be careful about calling the police and then only certain polices were allowed to come because after all, we must protect the battered woman at all times. It took almost 18 hours for the negotiation team to convince that crazed, armed husband to come out with his hands up. The woman who called her husband was moved to another safe house at taxpayer’s expense. This woman put every woman housed there as well as every staff there in danger. She put the police officers who came there in danger also. And I’m suppose to feel sympathy for her? I think not. There is no such thing as a battered woman syndrome. The battered woman syndrome is something that is used to make money off women. There is a syndrome for everything now. Discussion Topics: Do you think a battered woman gets what she deserves? Explain your answer. Why do you suppose a woman stays with a man who batters her? Do you think society conditions a woman to be battered? Should taxpayers pay for safe houses for battered women? Should taxpayers continue to pay for a battered woman who go back and forth from her husband to the safe house to her husband to the…? If you said no, how many time if any should taxpayers pay for a battered woman to live in a safe house? Is there such a thing as a battered woman syndrome? Explain your answer.
